What's the big idea?

"Virginity is the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse."

When I was 9, I still didn't know how to ride a bike. My brother, sister, even Uncle had tried (although to be honest, he just kinda pushed me around on the bike) but for some reason I couldn't learn. But when I told people, gosh the look on their faces? It was like I had told them Dexter's Lab was gay or something, they just couldn't believe. But funnily enough, there wasn't a special word for it. I just had never ridden a bike before. It didn't become a label, and sure they joked about for a while, but that was that. And then I when I finally learnt, they patted me on the back, and moved on.

I get it, everybody has their coming of age rituals. But why is it that this is the only one that gets a special name? Uncircumcised men are just called uncircumcised men, there is no skins and skinlesses or fores and foreless??, I mean it's just whether you've done it or not, you don't hear guys going round saying, holy shit dude, brians a fores (yeah, that sounded stupid in my head too). Fact is, it's just not that big of a deal. I have a friend who never learnt cursive. And I was like, what kinda bullshit school did you go to where they didn't teach your ass cursive, you better sue those *bleeeeeeeepp*. But it was just something she had never done. And it wasn't that big a fucking deal.

And no, before you jump down my throat, I don't think that having sex is something as trivial as learning cursive. I just don't think it deserves it's own name, like it's something so . It's a natural process, something that we have to try to submerge, kinda like when you need to let one loose, but you hold it in, so it does that weird old man noise in your stomach? Yeah, it's a thing of nature. You don't see lions going around and saying 'oh man, I ain't never gone mate with Shaniqua (yup, in my head, lion's are black. deal with it), or Kermit's friends dissing him cause he hasn't gotten with Ms. Piggy yet. It's just a thing. That's it.

The thing about labelling it, is that it becomes a lot more than the actually thing. It begins to represent more than it actually should. I would talk about that, but Lord knows that's enough for like for more posts. So let's end today with this little tidbit.... IT'S NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL.

Why?

~It's not that I'm super religious or anything. Lord knows I can't wait till I'm married to do it.
~It's not that I'm not attractive....I think... I hope... Oh no, that is it, isn't it? It's cause I'm ugly? *sobs*
~It's not that I'm one of those hippie *my-body-is-a-temple-and-I-won't-degrade-it* kinda people. I pop Maryland Cookies like they're tic tacs. Temple alright, temple of fooooood.
~It's not that I was home schooled. Or went to a Catholic school (why does that keep coming up?). Or a boarding school. Or a *insert different schooling system here* school.
~It's not that I'm not attracted to guys. After watching the new Mumford and Sons video, I had to take a shower. A cold one.
~It's not that there wasn't any opportunity. There always is opportunity. Guess just not the right kind.
~It's not that I think I'm better than anyone. In any way. Stronger, smarter, more innocent or worth more.
It doesn't define me. Any more than it should define others.
~It's not that I think I'm less than anyone. Less sexy, less seductive, less of a woman. It doesn't define me. Any more than it should define others.
~It's not something I pat myself on the back for. I didn't suffer to keep it. I didn't work hard to keep it. It's not an achievement. It just is.
       It's just a decision. Made over time, for me. Who knows when it'll happen. And why. But it's just a thing. I've never been to Cancun, Never seen the pyramids and never had sex. Fin. Fini. Finito. :)