Rules of Engagement

I hate dating in the 21st Century. I mean, back in the day, you saw a girl/guy, you liked him/her, you asked the parents wasup and you went with it. There was no dialogue, no flirting, no texting, no freaking butterflies while you wait for them to reply. And more importantly, no freaking rules. There are rules for everything nowadays, when you can add them on Facebook  What you can text to them, what you can reply, when you should reply, who should text first, when you shouldn't text first, what it means if you text first, like bloody hell, it shouldn't be this hard to have a proper effing conversation with someone!

It just makes you think though, is it actually meant to be this hard? Are you seriously supposed to think and panic and worry about how you come off to the person at the beginning? Because the problem is this, like I said in the technology post, when you think about something so much, it just stops being you at some point. And all this waiting a day and not texting first and not replying before a couple of minutes pass, it just becomes this sort of game of who seems, I dunno, more interested? And is it such a bad thing to be interested? I mean, why do we spend so much time in making sure the person doesn't know how interested we are in them? I mean, if they're not interested, then it's going to come off in certain ways, like they don't hold the conversation, or if they're either really nice or really mean, they'll spell it out for you as clear as crystal. But at the beginning, and this counts for guys as well, when honest to God, all you're doing is thinking about this person, and you're pretty sure it's not one sided but no. You sit there and wait for some sort of ordained sign that it's safe for you to reach out, you wait for them to bite the bullet first, not knowing that they're doing the exact same gosh darn thing!

And the thing about not seeming desperate, desperate to me is texting everyday. I don't have enough time to text my mother everyday, let alone a guy I'm crushing on. Desperate would be hanging off their every word and analysing everything they've said so far and remembering stuff that you really shouldn't remember, that's desperate. Texting him/her after a couple of days, no. And if it's one sided, then yeah, maybe you should cool off. But if they texts you too, in fact if they were the one who started the whole thing, then for gosh sake, stop being silly and playing small mind games where there are rules for everything. And if they're playing games with you, then maybe they're not worth your time at all. And that's the one case where you should definitely stop texting them.

Opinions? Comments? Feel free to tell me if you think I'm completely bat shit crazy. You would not be the first.